Update: 29 April 2017 I finally figured it out My Elmer Ellsworth Robertson was connected to Lillie because her husband on findagrave didn't have a memorial. They share a gravestone and instead of checking dates someone added my Elmer as her husband. I got that all straightened out.
Plus looking through family records from my Great Ella revealed my Elm was never married. He middle name Is Ellsworth not Allsworth.
So mystery solved!!!!!!